If you ask women, lying in the hospital, whom they want — a boy or a girl, most probably will answer: of course, my daughter! Son want to please her husband, but the dream of giving birth to my daughter. 20 years from now these same women often begin to complain that naughty daughter, did not meet their expectations don’t understand the loved one — your mom… And adult daughters, meanwhile dreaming of the birth of a child — of course, girls.
In fact, most women believe that the younger daughter will become a mainstay in my life, carer, close friend. What is the reason for this belief? The fact that women subconsciously equate his daughter with him. Often the mother is even difficult to understand where the boundary between her and her daughter. Usually it is quite natural, while the little girl knotted bows on silky curls and dress up in beautiful dresses like a doll (no wonder our grandmothers said, “the First child is the last doll”). At this age my daughter is in fact very close with his mother. The difficulties begin when the child is approaching school age. In addition to the daughter of his second, a woman tries in her upbringing to compensate for all the shortcomings of their life. Continue reading
There are several relatively Autonomous psychological mechanisms through which parents influence their children. In the first place. the reinforcements. encouraging behavior that adults think is right ,and punishing the violation of established rules ,parents inculcate in the mind of the child a certain system of norms ,compliance with which gradually becomes for the child a habit and an internal need. Secondly. identification. the child imitates the parents ,guided by their example ,is trying to become like them. Thirdly ,understanding. knowing the inner world of the child and sensitively responding to its challenges ,parents thereby shape his consciousness and communicative quality.
Family socialization is not confined to direct “paired” to the interaction of the child with the parents. Thus, the effect of identification can be neutralized by a counter-role complementarity. for example, in a family where both parents can very well run a household, the child may not develop these abilities. as. although before his eyes a fine specimen. the family does not need the manifestation of these qualities; on the contrary. in the family. where the mother of echosystem, this role may take on the eldest daughter. No less important is the psychological mechanism of resistance. the young Continue reading
Nowadays children get parents already late and the majority of people are consciously on the birth of a child. Especially when you decide on a second and third child. Young parents often do not comprehend the importance of the child in the family how to raise him, how to live with it, once family life is changing. Young parents are constantly busy, the child and often prevents them from becoming an irritant. Children are sent to retired grandmothers . to rest. And children need not only noses to wipe, and their need to love and teach your-life examples. Good parents…. It’s probably those who raised good children. Good kids…. Perhaps it is those children who learned in childhood to adult life skills and are now able to live independently, be happy and take care of their children and elderly parents. All wanting their children to be the best, be happy and confident in myself, but it is often not enough time and terpane on their children.
Probably none of the parents does not ask the question of why child given the child years? Childhood given to the child to learn how to live, and he learns to live by playing and developing in the family and society. It’s like in nature, any animal or bird the cubs Continue reading