If you ask women, lying in the hospital, whom they want — a boy or a girl, most probably will answer: of course, my daughter! Son want to please her husband, but the dream of giving birth to my daughter. 20 years from now these same women often begin to complain that naughty daughter, did not meet their expectations don’t understand the loved one — your mom… And adult daughters, meanwhile dreaming of the birth of a child — of course, girls.
In fact, most women believe that the younger daughter will become a mainstay in my life, carer, close friend. What is the reason for this belief? The fact that women subconsciously equate his daughter with him. Often the mother is even difficult to understand where the boundary between her and her daughter. Usually it is quite natural, while the little girl knotted bows on silky curls and dress up in beautiful dresses like a doll (no wonder our grandmothers said, “the First child is the last doll”). At this age my daughter is in fact very close with his mother. The difficulties begin when the child is approaching school age. In addition to the daughter of his second, a woman tries in her upbringing to compensate for all the shortcomings of their life. Continue reading
Education of the individual in Japan is very different from traditional education in Russia. Those rude phrases, which are easy to hear on our playgrounds: “you’re bad”, “now I will punish you” it is impossible to imagine there. Even if the little Japanese boy would fight with my mother or felt-tip pen to draw on the white door of the store are no strict punishments and reprimands will not follow. Up to 5-6 years old child here everything is allowed. Such liberal tradition of educating absolutely not fit into our ideas about how to raise children.
The basis of education in Japanese society is a tolerant and friendly attitude to a young child. Such permissiveness in childhood, adult Japanese citizens are law-abiding and ability to live by the interests of the team and company.
What Russians consider minor offences: beer behind the wheel, a conflict with a fight on holiday, journey on forbidding signal of a traffic light, — it is impossible for Japanese. To live is required by the rules. Break the rules (“losing face”). That in Japan, children are taught from early childhood, is the basis of education.
Amazing result? Actually, the education of the individual in Japanese society is constructed so that this result is a natural Continue reading
Know least about 450 types of psychotherapy. Unified systematization of such a wide and still growing list of almost unreal, and classification of types of psychotherapy varies considerably from author to author. But nevertheless most forms of psychotherapy can be correlated with major approaches. Consider the basic approaches in psychotherapy .
The psychodynamic approach.
Originates with the principles and techniques of psychoanalysis. coming from a dynamic understanding of psychic phenomena «… as a manifestation of the struggle of spiritual forces, as targeted expression of tendencies that operate in accordance with each other or against each other» (Z. Freud. 1915). The goal of psychotherapy — the understanding and resolution of inner emotional conflicts . arisen in the earliest relationships that determine the subjective value of subsequent experience and reproduced in later life.
The therapeutic relationship is used to identify, explain, and change these subjective values. Relationship «therapist-patient» considered as a reflection of ascending to the early experience of subjective values, emotional conflicts . During the therapeutic relationship, the patient unconsciously transfers to the therapist Continue reading