Education of the individual in Japan is very different from traditional education in Russia. Those rude phrases, which are easy to hear on our playgrounds: “you’re bad”, “now I will punish you” it is impossible to imagine there. Even if the little Japanese boy would fight with my mother or felt-tip pen to draw on the white door of the store are no strict punishments and reprimands will not follow. Up to 5-6 years old child here everything is allowed. Such liberal tradition of educating absolutely not fit into our ideas about how to raise children.
The basis of education in Japanese society is a tolerant and friendly attitude to a young child. Such permissiveness in childhood, adult Japanese citizens are law-abiding and ability to live by the interests of the team and company.
What Russians consider minor offences: beer behind the wheel, a conflict with a fight on holiday, journey on forbidding signal of a traffic light, — it is impossible for Japanese. To live is required by the rules. Break the rules (“losing face”). That in Japan, children are taught from early childhood, is the basis of education.
Amazing result? Actually, the education of the individual in Japanese society is constructed so that this result is a natural Continue reading
There are several relatively Autonomous psychological mechanisms through which parents influence their children. In the first place. the reinforcements. encouraging behavior that adults think is right ,and punishing the violation of established rules ,parents inculcate in the mind of the child a certain system of norms ,compliance with which gradually becomes for the child a habit and an internal need. Secondly. identification. the child imitates the parents ,guided by their example ,is trying to become like them. Thirdly ,understanding. knowing the inner world of the child and sensitively responding to its challenges ,parents thereby shape his consciousness and communicative quality.
Family socialization is not confined to direct “paired” to the interaction of the child with the parents. Thus, the effect of identification can be neutralized by a counter-role complementarity. for example, in a family where both parents can very well run a household, the child may not develop these abilities. as. although before his eyes a fine specimen. the family does not need the manifestation of these qualities; on the contrary. in the family. where the mother of echosystem, this role may take on the eldest daughter. No less important is the psychological mechanism of resistance. the young Continue reading
Nowadays children get parents already late and the majority of people are consciously on the birth of a child. Especially when you decide on a second and third child. Young parents often do not comprehend the importance of the child in the family how to raise him, how to live with it, once family life is changing. Young parents are constantly busy, the child and often prevents them from becoming an irritant. Children are sent to retired grandmothers . to rest. And children need not only noses to wipe, and their need to love and teach your-life examples. Good parents…. It’s probably those who raised good children. Good kids…. Perhaps it is those children who learned in childhood to adult life skills and are now able to live independently, be happy and take care of their children and elderly parents. All wanting their children to be the best, be happy and confident in myself, but it is often not enough time and terpane on their children.
Probably none of the parents does not ask the question of why child given the child years? Childhood given to the child to learn how to live, and he learns to live by playing and developing in the family and society. It’s like in nature, any animal or bird the cubs Continue reading