Children – flowers of life, but when these little fidgets begin loudly to weep and wail for the whole house, is not watching and jokes. Most moms strongly frightened, panicky start looking for the cause of crying, but she is only one and is quite understandable.
Through this expression the kid simply communicates with adults and the world, because he is not yet able to speak, what can he do? Of course, feeding at least these signals, which, in his opinion, always accurately hit the target.
Unfortunately, there is no universal advice that would help to instantly recognize what is now the baby wants and how to behave properly in this situation.
However, the opinions that say that the baby in this way develops the lungs and builds character, erroneous. Indeed, in these cases also suggest that you do not pay attention or even to shout at him, saying, he will calm down.
Such education and behavior is absolutely wrong and incorrect, which may not only lead to the desired results, but also hurt the already delicate psyche of the child, because he will begin to form the opinion that the world is unsafe, unfriendly, and he’s out there all alone.
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If you ask women, lying in the hospital, whom they want — a boy or a girl, most probably will answer: of course, my daughter! Son want to please her husband, but the dream of giving birth to my daughter. 20 years from now these same women often begin to complain that naughty daughter, did not meet their expectations don’t understand the loved one — your mom… And adult daughters, meanwhile dreaming of the birth of a child — of course, girls.
In fact, most women believe that the younger daughter will become a mainstay in my life, carer, close friend. What is the reason for this belief? The fact that women subconsciously equate his daughter with him. Often the mother is even difficult to understand where the boundary between her and her daughter. Usually it is quite natural, while the little girl knotted bows on silky curls and dress up in beautiful dresses like a doll (no wonder our grandmothers said, “the First child is the last doll”). At this age my daughter is in fact very close with his mother. The difficulties begin when the child is approaching school age. In addition to the daughter of his second, a woman tries in her upbringing to compensate for all the shortcomings of their life. Continue reading
There are several relatively Autonomous psychological mechanisms through which parents influence their children. In the first place. the reinforcements. encouraging behavior that adults think is right ,and punishing the violation of established rules ,parents inculcate in the mind of the child a certain system of norms ,compliance with which gradually becomes for the child a habit and an internal need. Secondly. identification. the child imitates the parents ,guided by their example ,is trying to become like them. Thirdly ,understanding. knowing the inner world of the child and sensitively responding to its challenges ,parents thereby shape his consciousness and communicative quality.
Family socialization is not confined to direct “paired” to the interaction of the child with the parents. Thus, the effect of identification can be neutralized by a counter-role complementarity. for example, in a family where both parents can very well run a household, the child may not develop these abilities. as. although before his eyes a fine specimen. the family does not need the manifestation of these qualities; on the contrary. in the family. where the mother of echosystem, this role may take on the eldest daughter. No less important is the psychological mechanism of resistance. the young Continue reading