While he is drawing, don’t get involved in the process, but follow the order of appearance of household on paper. When the picture is ready, ask the kid’s name all the characters in his paintings and get to the analysis.
• According to the sequence: the sequence of appearance of family members indicates the attitude of the young artist. Usually, the first children draw the most beloved or the most significant family member. If he forgot to paint someone – it means that with this man the child’s strained relationship. The child often portrays in the heart – so he was sure that his parents love him. Conversely, he feels abandoned and alone, if you do not have a picture of me at all.
• composition: If the figure in the form of group photographs missing one of the family members, ask the child why he forgot it. Such incomplete portrait – a serious point to consider.
• Size: the greater the credibility of the child is the man depicted, the higher and greater will be his figure. Rejected children paint themselves as small, spoiled and may not accommodate his giant image.
• distance: When the house is quiet, and peace, all of the characters are very close to each other. The closer they draw themselves to someone of the parents, the stronger his attachment to that person. Any item drawn Continue reading
If you ask women, lying in the hospital, whom they want — a boy or a girl, most probably will answer: of course, my daughter! Son want to please her husband, but the dream of giving birth to my daughter. 20 years from now these same women often begin to complain that naughty daughter, did not meet their expectations don’t understand the loved one — your mom… And adult daughters, meanwhile dreaming of the birth of a child — of course, girls.
In fact, most women believe that the younger daughter will become a mainstay in my life, carer, close friend. What is the reason for this belief? The fact that women subconsciously equate his daughter with him. Often the mother is even difficult to understand where the boundary between her and her daughter. Usually it is quite natural, while the little girl knotted bows on silky curls and dress up in beautiful dresses like a doll (no wonder our grandmothers said, “the First child is the last doll”). At this age my daughter is in fact very close with his mother. The difficulties begin when the child is approaching school age. In addition to the daughter of his second, a woman tries in her upbringing to compensate for all the shortcomings of their life. Continue reading
There are several relatively Autonomous psychological mechanisms through which parents influence their children. In the first place. the reinforcements. encouraging behavior that adults think is right ,and punishing the violation of established rules ,parents inculcate in the mind of the child a certain system of norms ,compliance with which gradually becomes for the child a habit and an internal need. Secondly. identification. the child imitates the parents ,guided by their example ,is trying to become like them. Thirdly ,understanding. knowing the inner world of the child and sensitively responding to its challenges ,parents thereby shape his consciousness and communicative quality.
Family socialization is not confined to direct “paired” to the interaction of the child with the parents. Thus, the effect of identification can be neutralized by a counter-role complementarity. for example, in a family where both parents can very well run a household, the child may not develop these abilities. as. although before his eyes a fine specimen. the family does not need the manifestation of these qualities; on the contrary. in the family. where the mother of echosystem, this role may take on the eldest daughter. No less important is the psychological mechanism of resistance. the young Continue reading