If you ask women, lying in the hospital, whom they want — a boy or a girl, most probably will answer: of course, my daughter! Son want to please her husband, but the dream of giving birth to my daughter. 20 years from now these same women often begin to complain that naughty daughter, did not meet their expectations don’t understand the loved one — your mom… And adult daughters, meanwhile dreaming of the birth of a child — of course, girls.
In fact, most women believe that the younger daughter will become a mainstay in my life, carer, close friend. What is the reason for this belief? The fact that women subconsciously equate his daughter with him. Often the mother is even difficult to understand where the boundary between her and her daughter. Usually it is quite natural, while the little girl knotted bows on silky curls and dress up in beautiful dresses like a doll (no wonder our grandmothers said, “the First child is the last doll”). At this age my daughter is in fact very close with his mother. The difficulties begin when the child is approaching school age. In addition to the daughter of his second, a woman tries in her upbringing to compensate for all the shortcomings of their life. Continue reading
There are several relatively Autonomous psychological mechanisms through which parents influence their children. In the first place. the reinforcements. encouraging behavior that adults think is right ,and punishing the violation of established rules ,parents inculcate in the mind of the child a certain system of norms ,compliance with which gradually becomes for the child a habit and an internal need. Secondly. identification. the child imitates the parents ,guided by their example ,is trying to become like them. Thirdly ,understanding. knowing the inner world of the child and sensitively responding to its challenges ,parents thereby shape his consciousness and communicative quality.
Family socialization is not confined to direct “paired” to the interaction of the child with the parents. Thus, the effect of identification can be neutralized by a counter-role complementarity. for example, in a family where both parents can very well run a household, the child may not develop these abilities. as. although before his eyes a fine specimen. the family does not need the manifestation of these qualities; on the contrary. in the family. where the mother of echosystem, this role may take on the eldest daughter. No less important is the psychological mechanism of resistance. the young Continue reading
Are You familiar with the condition where you want to yell at your child?
Or even to hit him?
Or are you confused and don’t know what to say to your child?
Or you think that you are too much from him?
And maybe sometimes you’re angry at yourself and you think that you are wrong to bring up?
because you have a lot of work and little time to engage the child
because you want every time as better, but it turns out, at least not in the way you want
because you, too, “so” raised
because it turns out that you don’t control the child, and the child – you
because sometimes you just don’t have the patience to do everything according to the rules written in books on education
And at the same time you really love
your son or daughter
and very want
the child grew up independent, strong, free, creative,
and most importantly happy and healthy
In our days the world is facing a crisis of education. In the past, the goal of education was to teach children obedience.
Positive parenting aims to raise the strong-willed child, but inclined to cooperate.
In order to raise healthy, able to cooperate Continue reading