If you ask women, lying in the hospital, whom they want — a boy or a girl, most probably will answer: of course, my daughter! Son want to please her husband, but the dream of giving birth to my daughter. 20 years from now these same women often begin to complain that naughty daughter, did not meet their expectations don’t understand the loved one — your mom… And adult daughters, meanwhile dreaming of the birth of a child — of course, girls.
In fact, most women believe that the younger daughter will become a mainstay in my life, carer, close friend. What is the reason for this belief? The fact that women subconsciously equate his daughter with him. Often the mother is even difficult to understand where the boundary between her and her daughter. Usually it is quite natural, while the little girl knotted bows on silky curls and dress up in beautiful dresses like a doll (no wonder our grandmothers said, “the First child is the last doll”). At this age my daughter is in fact very close with his mother. The difficulties begin when the child is approaching school age. In addition to the daughter of his second, a woman tries in her upbringing to compensate for all the shortcomings of their life. Continue reading
Education of the individual in Japan is very different from traditional education in Russia. Those rude phrases, which are easy to hear on our playgrounds: “you’re bad”, “now I will punish you” it is impossible to imagine there. Even if the little Japanese boy would fight with my mother or felt-tip pen to draw on the white door of the store are no strict punishments and reprimands will not follow. Up to 5-6 years old child here everything is allowed. Such liberal tradition of educating absolutely not fit into our ideas about how to raise children.
The basis of education in Japanese society is a tolerant and friendly attitude to a young child. Such permissiveness in childhood, adult Japanese citizens are law-abiding and ability to live by the interests of the team and company.
What Russians consider minor offences: beer behind the wheel, a conflict with a fight on holiday, journey on forbidding signal of a traffic light, — it is impossible for Japanese. To live is required by the rules. Break the rules (“losing face”). That in Japan, children are taught from early childhood, is the basis of education.
Amazing result? Actually, the education of the individual in Japanese society is constructed so that this result is a natural Continue reading
Nowadays children get parents already late and the majority of people are consciously on the birth of a child. Especially when you decide on a second and third child. Young parents often do not comprehend the importance of the child in the family how to raise him, how to live with it, once family life is changing. Young parents are constantly busy, the child and often prevents them from becoming an irritant. Children are sent to retired grandmothers . to rest. And children need not only noses to wipe, and their need to love and teach your-life examples. Good parents…. It’s probably those who raised good children. Good kids…. Perhaps it is those children who learned in childhood to adult life skills and are now able to live independently, be happy and take care of their children and elderly parents. All wanting their children to be the best, be happy and confident in myself, but it is often not enough time and terpane on their children.
Probably none of the parents does not ask the question of why child given the child years? Childhood given to the child to learn how to live, and he learns to live by playing and developing in the family and society. It’s like in nature, any animal or bird the cubs Continue reading